Berrien Springs is awesome! No, I’m not being sarcastic. Yes, it’s in the middle of nowhere. Yes, there are only 4 or 5 places to eat out. And yes, the air on campus sometimes smells like cow dung. haha. But those are the very things I love about this place. Well, I could live without …
wait, who’s older?
Over the past few years I’ve met women who have challenged my long-held conviction that when it comes to marriage, the man must always be older than the woman. No, he couldn’t even be a day younger! This belief did not evolve in a vacuum. Rather, it was seeded by lectures during Sabbath afternoon youth …
how do you mentor a mentee who doesn’t want your mentorship
One of the greatest gifts that experience brings is the opportunity to mentor the less experienced. So in light of my 30yr status, I’ve been doing some reflecting on how I responded to mentorship in my youth. Sad to say, on many occasions, I have been far from the model mentee. One example comes to …
rejecting the cows
There was a time when I was willing to relinquish my cultural heritage to adopt my husband’s so that our children would be raised solely as a part of his culture. There was a time when doing that made complete sense to me and I would have done it in a heartbeat – not for …
feelings
you wake up one morning and the world never seemed more wrong, like an endless journey you wonder why life must go on. you wake up one morning and every breath is a gift, as beautiful as a song, your spirits need no lift. but come afternoon as though good feelings knew thrift, like perfect …
psychology of the bouquet toss
This year will probably be the busiest for me in terms of wedding attendance. This past Sunday, I completed my 4th out of six weddings for this year and attempted a new approach to that dreaded moment called, “the bouquet toss.” Why brides still insist on tossing that thing must be a twisted form of …
the spider in my sink
I first noticed him in there this morning. When I opened the water, he scurried to the side and I reduced the pressure to avoid washing him down the drain. As a joke, I tell people not to kill the bugs in my home, because they’re my pets. In reality, it’s just that I’d prefer …
Halfway there…
Today, I finished my first half marathon! Thirteen and a tenth miles! How do I feel? Well… Sore in my knees because my longest run before this was ten miles. Sleepy I guess because my body is just plain tired and I woke up at 4am to eat fufu. Stoked about possibly attempting a full …
half marathon training
Although I don’t have an official bucket list, there are some things I keep in mind that I’d like to accomplish by certain stages in my life. For instance, I wanted to attend school outside my native Zimbabwe, for at least a couple of years…I wanted to learn how to braid hair just because the …
when…
When you’re looking for a change in your life, there is the temptation to fixate on an approaching moment in the future and ascribe to that moment all the qualities you wish you had now. When I was seven, I wanted so badly to be a Pathfinder! Both my eleven-year old brother and nine-year old …