I have a theory, that has been proven so many times I’m unashamed to publish it.
Here it is:
“With perseverance (and a little skill), any man can get a woman to fall in love with him.”
There is an addendum to that theory (lest I suffer the wrath of the independent woman):
“By the grace of God, any woman can resist the advances of any man, no matter how persevering the man or how contrary such resistance goes to her inclinations”

There’s something about persistent affection that draws a woman. He may be the least attractive man, physically, but as he loves you, somehow, your heart softens towards him.
I heard many stories like this, growing up – my own mother tells a similar tale. Not that my Dad isn’t cute, but that she had no intention of entering a courtship with him, let alone, marrying him. Yet here I am! Born to my Mom and Dad who are still married to one another.
I was always so afraid that I would end up marrying some guy I didn’t want to marry just because he pursued me well for long enough.

Romans 2:4 says, “Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, tolerance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness leads you toward repentance?” (NIV)
Maybe there’s a Biblical principle here…
It’s God’s “goodness” (KJV) that leads us to repentance. There’s something about His “longsuffering” that stirs a positive emotional response in us.
Could it be, perhaps, that women are created to mirror this effect that God has on His church?
It seems to me, that somehow, built into our makeup, is a love response to persevering kindness/goodness…etc.


7 Replies to “Owha Tagir Liam”

  1. Sikhu, I understand completely =) I just was surprised at the publication of the theory in the first paragraph.

    But it’s true that we have built-in responses system to love. That’s how we all came to God. It is He who loved us first; showed kindness first; everything first. And that love begets love in us; whatever love we have, is just a response.

  2. Sikhu, I think the first line gave it away. he he he 😉

    On a serious note though, I love the biblical analogy. We love Him because He first loved us. So true.

  3. the other view is this…not that l’m always opposed to what you post l just see it differently

    l’ll start with a note l read somwhere

    Believe and be satisfied – A letter from God the Father

    Have you ever once loved and given yourself totally to someone? To have a deep relationship with another? To be loved thoroughly and exclusively? You may say yes but I your Father say ‘NO’. Not until you are satisfied, fulfilled and content with being loved by Me alone. I love you my child and until you discover that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found, you will not be capable of a perfect human relationship that I have planned for you. You will never be united with another until you are united Me exclusive of any other desires and longings .I want you to stop planning… stop wishing… and allow Me to give you the most thrilling relationship that exists. One that you can’t even imagine possible. I want you to have the best. Please allow Me to bring it to you. Keep watching Me, expecting the greatest things. Keep experiencing the satisfaction that I give. Keep learning and listening to the things that I tell you. Don’t be anxious… don’t worry. Don’t look around to the things that others have or that I have given them. Don’t look at things that you think you want. Just keep looking at Me or you will miss what I want to show you. When you are ready I will surprise you with a love far more wonderful than you will ever dream of. You see until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready (who I am working with this minute as I am working with you, so as to have both of you ready at the same time) Until you are both satisfied with Me and the life I have prepared for you, you won’t be able to experience the love that is based on a relationship with Me and this is perfect love. Dear child I want you to have the most wonderful love. I want you to experience a relationship with Me and to enjoy the everlasting beauty of an affectionate love that I offer. Know that I love you utterly. I am your heavenly Father. Believe and be satisfied”

    After l read this l was like the whole persuing thing might not be the way its intended Let the Lord show you He is the best matchmaker cos the Lord brought Eve to Adam, Eliezar met Rebekahl at the well and she agreed to go with him to his master Isaac and Jacob met Rachel and loved her , point being there was no persuing. The scipture says ‘Today if you hear His voice, harden not your hearts’ Maybe only those with hard hearts need to be persued. Those whose eyes have been opened like Elisha servant don’t need persuing cos sometimes we miss the blessings in the wink of an eye by not knowing the hour of our visitation

  4. hahaha, Tinashe, it does feel like you’ve always got the “other” way to look at things 🙂
    That’s alright.
    I still believe that God pursues! And not just the hard-hearted.
    John 6:44 says that no man can come to Jesus except the Father draw him.
    When you think about it, since there is none that seeketh after God (Romans 3:11), then the only way we could come to God is if He were to draw us to Himself.
    And draw us He does!
    So, many are called, but few are chosen – the ones who are chosen are those who do not harden their hearts to God’s pursuit. Just like the girl who ends up getting married is the one who doesn’t turn down every man who ever pursues her (assuming, of course, that girls wait for the man to pursue and that she would only marry a male).

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