I have a theory, that has been proven so many times I’m unashamed to publish it.
Here it is:
“With perseverance (and a little skill), any man can get a woman to fall in love with him.”
There is an addendum to that theory (lest I suffer the wrath of the independent woman):
“By the grace of God, any woman can resist the advances of any man, no matter how persevering the man or how contrary such resistance goes to her inclinations”
There’s something about persistent affection that draws a woman. He may be the least attractive man, physically, but as he loves you, somehow, your heart softens towards him.
I heard many stories like this, growing up – my own mother tells a similar tale. Not that my Dad isn’t cute, but that she had no intention of entering a courtship with him, let alone, marrying him. Yet here I am! Born to my Mom and Dad who are still married to one another.
I was always so afraid that I would end up marrying some guy I didn’t want to marry just because he pursued me well for long enough.
Romans 2:4 says, “Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, tolerance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness leads you toward repentance?” (NIV)
Maybe there’s a Biblical principle here…
It’s God’s “goodness” (KJV) that leads us to repentance. There’s something about His “longsuffering” that stirs a positive emotional response in us.
Could it be, perhaps, that women are created to mirror this effect that God has on His church?
It seems to me, that somehow, built into our makeup, is a love response to persevering kindness/goodness…etc.